Melangkah ke Fasa Baru

Membuat keputusan untuk berkahwin bagi seorang wanita bukan satu benda yang mudah. Mungkin tidak bagi semua wanita tapi sekurang-kurangnya bagi seorang Azzura.

Untuk seorang gadis yang ada "kepala" sendiri, ada masa rasa takut juga kalau-kalau tak boleh memberi penghormatan/ketaatan selayaknya bagi seorang suami. Jadi itu antara soalan yang aku tanyakan pada diri:
"Bolehkah aku taat kepadanya nanti bila dia jadi suami?"

Soalan inilah antara soalan yang aku gunakan untuk membuat keputusan sama ada ingin meneruskan sesuatu perhubungan ataupun tidak sebelum ini. Dan takdirNya, tiada yang Dia izinkan. Mungkin Dia juga tahu bahawa aku tak mampu taat pada mereka. Lalu, sebelum ada apa-apa ikatan yg mengikat ketaatan, tidak Dia izinkan. Sama ada dari pihak sini atau sana yang putuskan. Alhamdulillah alhamdulillah alhamdulillah atas semua rencanaNya. Moga Allah memberi yang terbaik untuk semua hambaNya.

Kemudian, takdirNya menemukan aku dengan seseorang yang akan ku gelar suami, insha Allah dalam waktu kurang 24 jam berbaki (Mohon doa moga semuanya diberkati dan diredhai.) Soalan yang sama aku tanyakan lagi. Tempoh perkenalan aku gunakan sebaiknya untuk memerhati dan memantapkan hati. Alhamdulillah, pada dirinya ada kualiti-kualiti yang aku yakin secara UMUMnya boleh aku serahkan ketaatanku. (Mungkin akan ada masa aku gagal taat, tetapi secara umum, insha Allah dia lelaki yang aku cari)

Untuk kualiti-kualiti tersebut biarlah aku dan dia saja yang tahu
Cumanya, tujuanku coretkan di sini ialah bagi mengingatkan diri sendiri
Bahawa aku telah memilih dia
Atas sebab kebaikan Tuhan
Dan tanpa sebarang paksaan

Maka atas dasar itu, moga bila-bila kami ditimpa ujian atau saling berbalahan
Moga kami sentiasa ingat bahawa
Kami adalah tanda baikNya Tuhan
Dan untuk kesemua ketidaksempurnaan sebagai pasangan
Yang penuh dengan kelemahan
Moga-moga mudah untuk kami saling memaafkan

Takkan mampu cukup syukurku
Atas kurniaNya yang satu ini

Doakan kami. Moga-moga setiap lafaz doa kebaikan yang kalian lantunkan, Tuhan membalas dengan lebih banyak kebaikan untuk kalian.

Selamat melangkah ke fasa baru, Abu Bakar
Moga-moga Allah meredhai langkah kita.











Friend's Wedding and Fitting Session 🌸

Last week I went back to Kluang for my friend's wedding and fitting.

On Saturday, I went to Syafiqah's wedding and I was so happy to meet my high school friends there ❤️ And I'm so so happy for Syafiqah too. Alhamdulillah everything went well. Then my friend, Raudhah accompanied me to send the hantaran for decoration.




CONGRATULATIONS! 😊

On Sunday, I went to the wedding boutique for the fitting session. I was so excited to see my wedding dress 🥰 They're so pretty and I can't wait to wear it during my big day 🌸

Last minute of changing the design worth it!
There were some minor things to add on the dress and I'm good to go.

I also took the opportunity to send my wedding card to my teachers at Kluang High School. The teachers were excited too hehe. I really miss the moments there 🥺
It would be great if they all coming to my wedding ♥️♥️

It's good to be back!

The teachers ♥️

The wedding preparation is almost done. I just need to buy some other stuffs and just waiting for the day 🥰

May Allah ease everything and make it smooth all the way. From the wedding to the marriage.

A letter from a Single Azzura to a Married Azzura

Dear married Azzura,

I hope you keep this advice from a single Azzura who knows nothing about married life but very concerned about you being a wife.

Azzura, know that a husband is someone who you should love, respect and obey as a manifestation of ibadah to Allah. You don't worship your husband.

Your husband is your imam. Imam is meant to guide the makmum. But remember, imam is also a human. He can make mistakes. So, it's your role to correct him with love and courtesy.

Azzura, as a wife, be there for him through thick and thin. There will be time you feel down, seek comfort from him so that he will feel needed. And there will be time he feels down, so give him comfort. Remember, both men and women have emotions. Don't let anyone of you suppress it. Discuss about it heart to heart and find ways together.

Most importantly, love yourself so that you can love him as much. Never let anyone of you to sacrifice at the cost of anyone's loss because a successful relationship should be win-win.

Azzura, there will be times that he might be so hard to love. During this time, remember that you too aren't always easy to love. Remind yourself about thousand of kindness he has done to you. Mistakes shouldn't make all the good things he did disappear.

Remember, Rasulullah once said that the Hellfire is filled with ungrateful wives. These wives are ungrateful to the favors and the good deeds done to them by the husband. If the husband always been good to them and then they see something in him that she doesn't like, she will say "I have never received any good from you"
(Sahih Al-Bukhari)

Therefore, be careful with what you say. Refrain yourself from saying something you would terribly regret.

There will be times you get angry, frustrated, disappointed or sad with your husband. It's okay to feel that because your feelings are valid. But please...try your best to still be kind even when it's so hard to do so.

Azzura, you are your own person and he is his own person. You have your own vision in life and he has his own vision too. Therefore, marriage shouldn't stop you from pursuing whatever you wanted to pursue. But, be flexible to the change in plan and decision. Consider many things and discuss with your husband. May Allah always guide you through.

At the same time, create things you would enjoy doing together. Try new things and explore new adventures. It would be great! Hopefully all those good moments will always stay in your heart and you will always be reminded of all those sweetness insha Allah 🌸♥️

Azzura, there will be times that you might feel as if you have failed to be a good wife. Oh well, I'm afraid if you're still with your ridiculously high expectations on yourself. During this time, please communicate this with your husband. Ask him if there's anything that you could improve to be better. But be easy on yourself. You need time to improve and change too, right?

Azzura, someday if Allah wills, you will become a mother. I know you are so worried and scared of the responsibility. The thought of having children has always been amazing but you could never deny the pressure (that you put on yourself 🤦) So, take your time to enjoy your honeymoon period and get prepared in every aspect before conceiving. Invite your husband to join the discussion and preparations too (super important!)

Azzura, be the person who always appreciate good little things and moments like I have always do. Never lose this precious quality in yourself. Always remember that life isn't always filled with rainbows and sunshine. Sometimes, there will be rain and thunderstorms. Same goes to your married life. But that's the beauty. As long as you both are willing to put efforts together, insha Allah you both will do good 🌸

Last but not least,
May Allah bless your marriage and shower it with sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah.
May Allah make you the joy and tranquility in your husband's eyes.
May you both always love and care for each other.

Deep inside my heart, I'm happy for you. I believe that the husband I've chosen for you is the best one. The best doesn't mean the perfect one. It just simply means you both are good enough for each other. And I believe, when you both aren't perfect, so it's easier for you both to gain pahala for being patient to each other and to help each other discover the better version of both selves.

Till then,
بارك الله لكما وبارك عليكما وجمع بينكما في خير

You are good to go, Azzura.
All the best in your married life.
I am still you and you are still me.
No matter how much you gonna change after marriage, the core values and principes that I hold all my life will always be inside you insha Allah.