Movie Lessons: A monster Calls

Assalamualaikum.

Before I start, I would like to thank to Mimi Farah Mohamad Jazman and Faten Nadhirah Muhammad Fauzi for recommending this movie.

I just want to share the lessons I learnt from a movie I watched last night: A Monster Calls.
The movie is highly recommended. You will find that the movie will teach you life lessons. It has taught me about family relationships, love and marriage, how to face struggles in life, etc.

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What is the story about?
It's a story about a boy. Too old to be a kid, Too young to be a man.
A boy whose heart has been broken to see his single mother fighting with cancer.
A boy who always have questions about things happening in his life.
Why do his parents divorce? Why do his mother needs to struggle with cancer? Why do he has to be bullied at school?

He is yearning for an answer and get the answer through tales, told by a tree monster in his dreams.
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Lesson I learnt.

1. Family Relationship
Our family members are the closest to our heart. They are the one who we will first ask for help. They are the one who we will first ask for comfort.
But, our family members are not perfect. And often time, we misunderstand their actions. Because, we don't bother to ask. Rather, we assume.
Therefore, let us all try to be honest with our family members.

“And if one day,' mom said, really crying now, 'you look back and you feel bad for being so angry, if you feel bad for being so angry at me that you couldn't even speak to me, then you have to know, Conor, you have to that is was okay. It was okay. That I knew. I know, okay? I know everything you need to tell me without you having to say it out loud.”  
“You be as angry as you need to be,” mom said. “Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Not your grandma, not your dad, no one. And if you need to break things, then by God, you break them good and hard.”

Things that have been a burden in your heart need to be spoken.
Because, sabr (patience) is to talk about what's bothering you, without losing control of your emotions.

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2. Love and Marriage

In one scene, the boy is talking to his dad (who has been divorced with mom). After years not seeing each other because his dad remarried to a new wife, they got a heart-to-heart conversation.

"Why did you move away?" said the boy

"We were young, too young. You know big dreams."

"What kind of dreams?"

"Your mom wanted to go to a hot college"

"Really?"

"Yeah. She didn't go but she wanted it to"

"What happened? Because mom got pregnant and it was me?"

"hey, she never regret having you. You are only a good news. I know that for a fact 'cause one thing she regrets was marrying me."

"Why did she marrying you then?"

"Because I'm handsome" both giggled. and dad continues, "Your mom was amazing and she still is. We were in love. I mean, I still love her. But, you see, love isn't enough. It doesn't carry you through."

"So you didn't get happily ever after?"
"No, but that's life. You know, most of us get mess ever after. That's alright."

And, this is the truth. Love isn't enough. Physical appearance doesn't make a marriage stays. Marriage requires both love and mercy. 

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3. How We Face Struggles in Life

In one scene, the boy dreams of her mom dies, falling down from a cliff. And it is he, who let her mom dies because he could not bear the pain of seeing his mom struggling with cancer. But, he also actually wanted her mom to be cured. It's actually an internal conflict.

“If you speak the truth," the monster whispered in his ear, "you will be able to face whatever comes.You must speak the truth and you must speak it now, Conor O'Malley. Say it. You must."
Conor shook his head again, his mouth clamped shut tight, but he could feel a burning in his chest, like a fire someone had lit there, a miniature sun, blazing away and burning him from the inside.
“It'll kill me if I do,” he gasped.
"It will kill you if you do not, the monster said. You must say it.” 
Connor: I let her go. I could have held on but I let her go.
The Monster: And that is the truth.
Connor:I didn't mean it, though! I didn't mean to let her go! And now it's for real! Now she's going to die and it's my fault!
The Monster: And that is not the truth at all. 
“You know that your truth, the one that you hide… is the thing you are most afraid of. It does not matter what you think, the monster said, because your mind will contradict itself a hundred times each day. You wanted her to go at the same time you were desperate for me to save her. Your mind will believe comforting lies while also knowing the painful truths that make those lies necessary. And your mind will punish you for believing both.”
“You do not write your life with words, the monster said. You write it with actions. What you think is not important. It is only important what you do.” 

In the end, his mom finally dies and he cried his heart out. But, he manage to let go. 

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This is so true. Often times, we feel by hiding our honest feelings, it would make things better. Because we are afraid to know the outcomes. But, most of the times, even if the outcome doesn't turn out the way we wanted it to, it is actually turn out the way we need it to. 

Be honest. Speak the truth. It takes courage to speak the truth, I swear. It was hard. It's never easy. But it worth it. It worth to speak the truth as it can lift the burden in our heart. Trust me. 

This movie is really inspiring and I would highly recommend this movie to you guys.

It will make most of us contemplating on what have we done, what are we going to do, what decision are we going to take, what's running in our thoughts, what actions are we going to take.

 It worth watching it.

Plus, this movie doesn't have any obscene scene. It's an innocent movie with valuable life lessons in it.